I was doing some soul searching tonight while walking thru the store with my boo. Sometimes the stories he tells me about his past kinda pull at my heart strings a little bit because I can't see him in some of the situations he tells me he has been in. He tells me that I shouldn't feel bad over things that happened in the past and I kinda feel like I shouldn't either. But sometimes it get to be too much when I start to hear the details, and all the different situations. I cant see my boo doing some of those things he tells me he has done. And I guess if he isnt feeling bad about it then why should I get the blues. Everyone has a past right? And I am not his first boyfriend. I dont want him to think I am judging him when I say I feel bad for the things he tells me. I just see him in such a positive light that I dont wanna hear the bad things... Well I do wanna know the bad things, but I guess just not in such vivid detail. I accept him for who he is, I really do... And I know I have to take the bitter with the sweet, and my past isn't pristine. I have a lil tarnish on my past too, but there are certain situations I ust wish he didnt have to be in. I think my problem is, I wanna look at him like he is an angel, but I need to realize that no one is perfect. Not even me. And when he tells me things, he tells me because he wants me to know all aspects of his life. I just can't help feeling the way I do when I hear things about my baby. "I luh he!!!" Y'all tell me what to do...
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Have you heard the saying "Don't go looking for things because you just might find it."? Leave it be. Don't focus on what his past was cause it is over. Live in the present and look towards the future!
i try to not think about it but we talk about his past quite often so its hard to not think about it. But I will try.
I'll say this, you can't judge a person based on there past. Also if you feel as if you know enough about there past and your tired of hearing about it the best thing to do is speak on it, communication is key, you want your better half to focus on the moment and the present not the past, but he may not know that you don't like these stories because you haven't spoken up, so when the time is right express how you feel, he'll understand. :)
I'm new here - but I am commenting because what sticks out for me in this read is that you say his past is up for discussion a lot. Is he not past it? It's called the past for a reason - why all the rehashing?
Well Jack,
I like the fact that he is upfront and honest about things that he has done, BUT there is a such thing as overly honest, or brutally honest. And when I tell him how it makes me feel to hear about some of the things in his past he tells me I am being wack, and I am starting to believe that I am.
Babe the best thing you can do is just listen and be understanding.. He's obviously comfortable telling you things about himself that are slightly questionable..Because he feels so comfortable be careful of the way that you talk to him about the situation to ensure that he continues telling you things in the future.
Wait, wait, wait - your *man* is telling you you're wack?!?! Oh - no, no, no. That simply won't do. If you're telling him how this shit makes you feel and he's not taking your feelings into consideration, but instead mocking you for your feelings, somebody uh gon' need to smack this jobu in the back of the head. Don't let ANYONE minimize what your feelings tell you - as a matter of fact ... *rolls up sleeves* ... where is he? Point him out ...
Jack, Don't you mess w/ my boo! LOL...
Contagious, I fully understand wat u r saying, and that is wat i have been doing. Honestly I usually just shut up and listen and keep my thoughts to myself.
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